I don’t know about you but I’ve always hated that cliche, which i’m sure we’re all familiar with.
“Don’t assume, it’s makes a (blank) out of you and me.”
I won’t write it all out…this is a family email, but you’ve heard it.
See, assuming is only bad and leads to problems for the one doing the assuming. It’s not the other person’s fault that we assumed XYZ.
So, that leads me to the third agreement. Don’t make assumptions. Well, what does that mean and why is it not a productive way to handle things? I’ll break this down as simply as I can.
Making assumptions leads to the following:
- False reality
- Perpetual state of fear
- Hurt feelings
- Negative Judgements
- Negative thoughts
- AND a whole bunch of other emotional darkness
How do we combat this urge to assume? Simple, ask questions. It’s not easy, but it is simple.
Ruiz says, : “The way to keep yourself from making assumptions is to ask questions. Make sure the communication is clear. If you don’t understand, ask. Have the COURAGE to ask questions until you are as clear as you can be.”
The key word there is COURAGE. Having the courage to communicate to others.
And that’s just one of the many things people of all ages gain from training in the martial arts.
As much as I would like to tell you more. I’m going to leave the rest to Don Miguel Ruiz. Pick up his book on Amazon The Four Agreements.
In the meantime ponder on this third agreement, pass it on, and if you want to gain the kind of courage it takes to improve the quality of life then visit our site…
www.CoreFightAcademy.com and get registered to give our programs a try.
Doesn’t matter if you are an Adult, Teenager, or Young child, just get out there and see what you are capable of.
See you soon and as always…Make it a great day.