Most people who know think I exude confidence. But you never know what really goes on behind someone’s smile. I say that because it’s easy to present yourself as confident, but it’s harder to believe in yourself.

Many people you see in a day appear confident. I certainly do, but there have been times in my life when I have had doubts. Recently I went through a few days where the doubts were ruling my life. But then on went to a website I really like, and again realized that I do deserve success. More importantly I deserve time and financial freedom. I am ready to change my life. This piece comes from

The root cause of low confidence and self-esteem is insufficient self-love, so we must develop a positive view of self that will motivate us to take action, make changes and stay resilient when we face setbacks.

Confidence is critical to our performance in the workplace, and is also an essential component to create and maintain healthy relationships. When we have the confidence factor, we become powerful, engaging and inspiring as we are authentic and at ease with ourselves. We are proactive, rather than defensive, and can laugh at ourselves.

Our perception of ourselves has an enormous impact on how others perceive us. If we are not confident, how can we thrive? Sure, not everyone wants to be a worldwide leader, but when we are self-confident we become a leader in our own world as it determines how many of our goals we achieve.

3 Simple Steps to Get “The Confidence Factor”

1) Create a success journal

List all your achievements, as they will form the backbone of your self-confidence. Ask yourself, “What do I feel most proud of?” Is it your children, your body, facing an issue head on, being honest with someone, setting a boundary or perhaps supporting a friend?

Dispel any irrational beliefs and lies when your head tells you that you are not good enough. Stay true to yourself and remind yourself constantly of your achievements by carrying your success journal with you at all times. Focus each day on one thing that makes you feel good about yourself. Remember – daily positive rituals will raise inner-confidence.

2) Tell yourself, “I can, I will”

Repeat this constantly throughout the day and really feel it when you say it, especially when someone upsets you or something you want to happen doesn’t materialize. At night take a piece of paper and add a margin across the top and down the left-hand side. In the margin across the top write, “I can and I will” in capitals.

Then, in the middle of the page, write down what it is that you want to accomplish. It could be taking a tiny action step towards your dream, thinking positively or losing weight. On the left-hand side, write out what the consequence is for not doing it, and list at least one action you will take to make it happen.

3) Be assertive

We must value ourselves and not allow anyone to diminish us. Here’s the thing, the cost of not standing up for ourselves comes at a high price, as every time we neglect ourselves by not asking for what we want and need, or we don’t confront others who are disrespecting us – we erode our self-respect, confidence and self-esteem. When talking to someone you have difficulty being assertive with, try the following:

  • Keep emotional sound control
  • Don’t make excuses
  • Be direct and honest
  • Practice, prepare and plan what you want to say
  • Have direct eye contact
  • Keep it simple and specific
  • Be objective
  • Keep your tone neutral

Always stay confident! I will always help the people on my team stay confident and reach their goals! Join my team today and you will be working with someone who has faced challenges, but has maintained confidence through it all! Please click on the link to watch my video. In it I talk about a couple of my moments when I regained my confidence and believed in myself when others didn’t.

I was a state employee for almost 21 years when my doctor decided full-time employment was not for me anymore. But I am not a person to just sit around, so I am on her blogging each day about what I am learning and how I can help you. I am loving working for myself and enjoying life at the same time. I will lead you to success by taking your hand and showing you exactly what you need to do. My goal is to help is as many people as possible to live the dream and achieve success. So take my hand, and click the button so we can started together.

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